Theory of Care

You can only be in a state of blissful ignorance for so long until you realize that being nice to everyone only results in unwanted problematic issues that arise. Although I would love to keep every friend that I have met through the course of moving about to being back where I supposedly belong, that is in all essence, a practical impossibility.

Friends really do come and go. In efforts to please all of them simultaneously with in a reciprocal manner, instead it fails me and truly, a lesson to be learned. In this reality which we occupy, fairness is simply non-existent. When push comes to shove, you are only left with friends whom you can distribute, however much of your limited that you might have toward.

Furthermore, there are friends that you definitely value and certain ones that you tend to value more, simply a matter of picking and choosing. It really dazes you in wonder because you understandably can not do so and will not be able to have your cake and eat it too.

Splitting the slices of the cake of your time really becomes complicated and only amounts to jealousy to those whom do not share the same amount of the metaphorically phrased desert. Granted, I have to admit that my attention no longer is distributed equally as I have come to be concerned about certain people over others. Still friends none the less, the slices of the pie is noticeable and understandably so, it creates the need for more cake for some and the victimization of those whom are already getting most of it.

Mistakes are in abundance in the course of our lives, never escaping the harsh truth that we live as a student of life. Being nice, too nice only gets someone hurt. Being decisive only leaves you with too few of a number of options. I'll meet you halfway.

Monday Morning

Randomly randomized scribbles of randomly randomized scribbles....

Waking up to your pretty face each day
The scent of you on my pillow case
Having a brand new start to make my way
Yet I tremble at the thought of the fray

The sun mourns at the sight of me
Clouds gather to celebrate the tragedy
Tears from the sky rains with glee
Maybe its a Monday morning or just me

You're love's like a cigarette
I can't get enough of it
You get me high, without flying
I'm in an total abyss

Is failure cause by our limitations?

As products of generalized normalities of every culture, success is the justification to our very existence but some do not realize that our limitations defines us. Yes, certain limitations can be conquered but truthfully, there is a reason why most of us only succeed when placed in most opportune of positions to achieve success in the first place. However, it is only when you recognize your limitations, you will discover a clearer path to what it is that will allow you to fulfill your self-potential. Think of the half-full, half-empty cup statement. The cup represents you, as a vessel. Though from person to person, your cup might differ in size but no matter, a cup can only contain so much before the contents of the cup itself, begins to spill. Well, the solution seems simple right? Just learn to fill your cup to the brim without spilling, otherwise known as knowing the size of your cup. That is where limitations come into play as you learn about yourself.

As this point, you might be thinking, sure, I can learn from my limitations just as I can learn from my moments of success. However, that is just the beginning of it all. Logically, because of our limitations, failure is inevitable but frankly speaking, that is not the truth. Learn to accept that there will be some things that we cannot excel in. The reason why I have been using the term, limitation instead of failure because it is caused by expectation. Failure is controlled by expectations. This is what I refer to as being realistic. To further clarify the difference between failure and limitations, think of dinosaurs and think of the organisms that survived. Failure is not limitation. From limitations, we have adaptation but where are the dinosaurs?

Failure is basically your inability to manage your expectations. Knowing when to expect less and knowing when to expect more will allow you to manage your cup analogy better. A simple example of this can be taken from a scenario of comparing two students. They are in the same class but in theory, their cup sizes are different, no pun intended. The first student in this example expects an A for the class while the second student expects a C. They both end up getting a B for the class. You might think, well, the student that wanted the A wouldn't be interpreting the situation as a failure but you have to realize, with expectations, it is like a domino effect. Think of the expectation of wanting an A as a piece to his puzzle and without that piece, the puzzle will never be complete. The cup will never be full. But you know what? For the student that expected a C, ending up with a B, the cup is looking pretty fucking good right now.